Scrolling through your news feed you will most likely be bombarded with more half naked photos and bikini snaps than you would genuine, great, real photography. When I say genuine great photography, you don’t have to be a pro to capture the type of photo you see when the smile is the focal point and the personality shines through the image. It appears as though these days the captions on the images get smaller and so do the clothes.

Instagram is full of more sultry photos than smiling photos, more selfies than scenery and you’ll receive more likes for your bikini photo than you will your lifestyle photo and because of this, we stopped doing it for our dignity and started doing it for the likes.

Since when did we stop wanting to be known for our skill, our minds and our personality and start using our looks and bodies to define us? Most importantly, when did we lower our dignity and morals as women and start using our skin to get us where we ‘think we want to be in life’. Why are we lowering ourselves to the point WE even forget we have a voice and an ability to be known and appreciated for it.

For most of us, when we post a selfie or a picture of ourselves online we eagerly wait to see how many likes our photo gets, what comments come through (hoping to receive praise in the way that we look) and if we have gained any new followers.

When you matter, when you are accepted and you are loved it gives you a sense of ‘status’. The need for this status has come from what society places as something we need and something that matters. A superficial and materialistic definition of what life really is.

By lowering our values, morals and dignity we are using our bodies to define us instead of our voice and we are allowing ourselves to be judged upon from the World and sometimes that judgement can be cruel, from people we don’t even know. 

Nothing destroys self-worth, self-love and self-acceptence like denying yourself for who you really are and the potential you have in life and the surest way you are going to lose your self-worth is by trying to find it through the eye of others.

So, before you post your selfie or a racy image you have had your friend/boyfriend take of you, here are the three things I’ve learnt to think about and highly suggest you do too.

  1. Is this image a true representation of yourself? If you scroll through your Instagram feed or Facebook page and looked at your images, would you feel as though what you are posting is exactly who you are? Does your photo show your personality and style, or does it show a version of yourself  you have created just in hopes to achieve likes and comments.
  2. Are you more than your photo? Do you have talents, skills and passions that you are too afraid to share with the world? Sometimes we tend to hide behind those skills and talents because we have a fear of being laughed upon so we put our image forward instead of our talent in fear of rejection.
  3. What is the motivation and intention behind posting your photo? This question is in relation to what I was saying above. We post for the likes to be accepted, to feel loved and to feel like we matter. So the next time you post your next photo on social media, think about the reason behind why you are doing it.

So in this life that we each have so graciously been granted, let’s aim to live it right. With respect for ourselves, dignity, knowing our self-worth and not being afraid to use our voice over our image. Not one ounce of your self-worth should depend on the acceptance of others.

As the saying goes “If you put a small value on yourself, rest assured that the World will not raise your price.” – Author unknown.


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3 Comments on 3 Things you need to think about before you post your selfie

  1. Milly
    November 20, 2017 at 4:20 pm (3 weeks ago)

    Beautifully written and that’s what o remind all the time. It’s not about validation or the comments you will get but the truth if who you are.

  2. Katie
    November 20, 2017 at 10:53 pm (3 weeks ago)

    This is such a good topic! I love the more “real” photos and natural smiles!

  3. Sarah
    November 23, 2017 at 3:19 am (3 weeks ago)

    Such an important topic! This year I have made a conscious effort to create a feed that is more authentic and true to myself. I have a double chin when I smile and that’s okay <3


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