‘In order to become who we are, we must learn who we are.’ Some of my favourite words spoken by author and speaker Dr Andrea Pennington.
If I asked you today ‘Who are you?’ would you feel completely confident in your response? Would your response be somewhat surface level? For example… ‘My name is Stephanie Barreca, I am 27, I live in Sydney and I am a blogger who writes about ……’
Does that define and give you a clear vision of who I am, or does it sound like someone who in fact isn’t sure of who they are?
If you asked me this question 5 years ago, that most likely would have been my response. If you asked me this same question today, my response would be a lot more in depth. If you want to know who I am, I will tell you exactly the type of person I am because I know who I am. Loving, accepting, confident, grateful, the list goes on. I am at a place where I truly understand what defines me, what my values are and what makes me proud to be me.
Becoming and understanding who we are is like peeling back the layers of an onion, layer upon layer until you slowly but surely reach the core of who you are. We must not confuse who we are with what we have, because the materialistic items we own do not define who we are, they are simply a luxury in our lives.
Before we can understand who we are, we must recognise what we are not.
You are not:
- The money in your bank account
- The clothes in your wardrobe
- The number on the scale
- The labels on your clothes
- The makeup on your dresser
- The job that you have
- The house that you live in
- Are my current understanding of beliefs actually what I stand for, or am I simply following what the rest of society is believing in?
- If someone asked me who I was, would I list the materialistic qualities I possess?
- If I had no job, no money, no house, no clothes, would I know who I am?
Begin your journey by…
Spending time with yourself:
The only way we can start to strip back the layers to understand our core is by understanding what makes us excited, happy, confident, strong and compassionate.
How you do this is by spending quality time with yourself. Do the things you want to do to begin your journey of self discovery and understanding. By doing things that push you outside your comfort zone you are allowing yourself to reach new heights within yourself you didn’t know were possible. It’s time to start experimenting with new ground and new beginnings.
Understanding your positive traits:
No matter who we are, we each have one thing we can identify as a positive trait. By focusing on this positive trait we nurture it into becoming a strength. Once we learn to focus on our positive traits we will soon learn that they in fact are our strengths and our strengths are a huge part of what defines us. Your strengths are a large part of your qualities!
Become your own best friend:
There is absolutely nothing wrong with this. There is a slight stigma in society about putting yourself first, being your own best friend. But what happens when we don’t put ourself first is we stop to rely on ourselves for certain things and we rely on those around us.
In the beginning of my self discovery journey years ago the one thing I struggled with was branching away and focusing on the things I WANTED TO DO rather than the things everyone else wanted to do. Because of this it delayed my journey in discovering what it is in life that I love.
The moment I started to put myself first and try new things was the moment I discovered so much more about myself than I could of imagined. Who knew I loved art? Who knew I hated going to concerts? I stopped following the crowd and started marching to the beat of my own drum. I started to discover talents I didn’t know I had and realised the things that brought me joy and eventually I was blessed with meeting new people along the way.
So if you imagine yourself standing there bare naked, with not a cent to your name, no house, no clothes, none of the items you own now and someone asked you ‘Who are you?’ would you be confident in your answer?
Some useful articles to help you further:
TRUE LOVE: Discover internal love and how you can find it! > HERE
FEAR OF JUDGEMENT: Removing your fear of judgement will help you grow you confidence in who you are > HERE