It’s time for you to take a handle on your life and achieve the outcome you want! If you look at your life at this point in time can you confidently say you are living it exactly the way you want to? Ask yourself, are you completely content where you are and the direction you’re heading?

If you are, congratulations because not many people have learnt how to achieve this! If you aren’t, then please read on..

What does it feel like to not have control of your life?

It’s a sense of feeling trapped as if you can’t see the end of a tunnel. You feel stuck in a rut but you also don’t see yourself getting out of it.

You know your dreams are there but you don’t ever see yourself achieving them. They have been pushed aside and placed on the back burner. You have given in to the negativity and you are settling into what you think you are worthy of.

Do you find yourself thinking ‘This is it, I accept it as is, where I am at now I will be forever’. This is what giving in feels like, losing control and letting go.

What does it feel like to have that control? 

Two words came to mind as I try to describe the feeling of control. I truly believe that when you know you have control and can see the direction you are heading, you should feel these two things:

Content – You should feel content in where you are in life. You have either achieved the vision you have had for yourself or you know that where you are, is not your forever.

Where I am now is not where I will be in 1-2 years. I am certain in my direction and I can see it unfolding right before my eyes. It might even be 5 years away but I see it, I am working on it and that is what truly matters!

Peace – I feel like we are all searching for peace in one way or another. Peace is a calmness within because you have certainty in who you are and where you are going. It is a power of knowing that you have the control and the ability to shape your life for the outcome that you want to achieve.

How do I take control of my life? 

It starts with YOU! It always will and we need to understand that. We can not look at others or life around us to help us achieve our dreams. Everyone has their own journey and the person next to you is on a different path and may end up in a completely different direction.

Most of us don’t give ourselves the credit we deserve. I come across so many people who didn’t understand their self worth and what they could achieve until it was brought to light within them.

Understand what is out there. Understand the world we are in today and LOOK at the possibilities you have around you. Never give up your dreams as everything you want can be achieved when you put your mind to it.

There is a well known quote ‘you only need one person to believe in you’. That one person you need to believe in you is yourself. Stop looking for someone to believe in you and start looking at your self belief!

No matter where you are in life, know your worth and never settle for something that is OK if you know you deserve more.

Ask yourself these questions:

1. Are you surrounding yourself with positive influences?
2. Are the people around you supporting your direction?
3. What can I do for myself, TODAY to start changing my life around?

Reflect on what it is in your life that you want to change and start putting it into action.

TAKE NOTE, WRITE THIS DOWN: ‘I will do life and live the life I want utterly and completely. I will start to be aware of my emotions and I WILL start to forget the negative and replace it with the POSITIVE!’

Having this written down or saved in your phone will be a constant reminder when feeling low. You can look back and reflect on the above note and remind yourself where you want to be and how you will get there!

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Some related articles which will help you further:

START SHAPING A BETTER YOU –  Let the positive in and the negative out – How to let go of your inner critic

STOP BEING AFRAID OF JUDGEMENT:  ‘Have you ever feared the judgement of others? Here is why you shouldn’t!’

11 Comments on How you can achieve your dreams by taking control of life!

  1. Sarah Surman
    August 27, 2017 at 5:52 am (3 months ago)

    “Stop looking for someone to believe in you and start looking at your self belief!” – boom baby!! I love this!! Such a good read I completely can relate to this right now …. definitely learning that it is ourselves that ultimately have the power to decide the direction we want to go in- other people don’t determine our steps…
    xoxo S

    • Stephanie Barreca
      August 27, 2017 at 11:49 pm (3 months ago)

      It’s all about self belief first! Gotta work on your internal girl! 😉 Thank you! Love that you enjoyed it! x

  2. Milly
    August 27, 2017 at 6:42 am (3 months ago)

    I will definitely start by shaping me first. It starts with ME.Thanks for sharing because I tend to put other people first, I make people happy in so many occasions that I forget about me. I put my list aside so I could help someone else accomplish theirs. I think I need to bring a little too nice. This post opened another goal that I need to work on. Thank you Steph. I enjoyed this. And I am saving it for reference to remind me that I am in control

    • Milly
      August 27, 2017 at 6:43 am (3 months ago)

      Need to stop being a little too nice to people

      • Stephanie Barreca
        August 27, 2017 at 11:50 pm (3 months ago)

        It always starts with YOU first. How can you help others if you haven’t helped yourself first? My dad always tells me ‘you can only take people as far as you have come’! So take yourself the whole way first so that you can bring others to achieve a life that you have for yourself!

  3. Jen
    August 27, 2017 at 12:03 pm (3 months ago)

    What an inspiring read! Thanks for sharing this! I especially love the three questions to ask yourself, because it gives me clear reminders and something to focus on. Thanks Stephanie!

    • Stephanie Barreca
      August 27, 2017 at 11:51 pm (3 months ago)

      You’re welcome! Glad you enjoyed it! The power of questions hey! It challenges us to keep on thinking!

  4. Katie
    August 27, 2017 at 5:42 pm (3 months ago)

    This post is so inspirational! I count myself lucky to have so many people around that support what I want to do in life. Thanks for reminding me to be thankful.

    • Stephanie Barreca
      August 27, 2017 at 11:55 pm (3 months ago)

      You are so lucky! Not everyone is as lucky to be surrounded by support and a strong foundation! This is the huge importance of building a strong foundation from within, you never know if the life you have now and the support you have now will be there tomorrow, two weeks or two years from now! So when and if anything ever crumbles (hoping that it never would for anyone!), we have the strength and belief to build ourselves back up again!

    • Stephanie Barreca
      September 18, 2017 at 12:20 am (2 months ago)

      Thank you! I am so glad you enjoyed!


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