At least once a week I find myself in a position having some kind of life talk with someone from who knows what part of the World over Instagram or email or even someone I ran into down the road! I just can’t help myself! This is the beauty of social media, It has allowed all of us to connect with each other like we could have only dreamed of 10-15 years ago. Not only connect, but to share experiences and pull each other through life!

I have been touching base on this subject of judgement and our fear of it with a very special little lady lately. She has the most incredible life story to tell but at the same time, her fear of judgement is holding her back from showing the World just how uniquely beautiful she really is! Knowing her journey, I have come to love all her troubles and insecurities because that’s what makes her HER!

By being afraid of what people think of us, it stops us from achieving what we truly want in life. Have you ever actually sat down and asked yourself WHY do you care? What is it about people’s opinions that you are afraid of?

Is it not feeling good enough? Our fear of not feeling good enough comes from our need of seeking validation in the wrong places. We seek it from the World around us rather than from within.

  1. Your flaws aren’t flaws, your problems aren’t problems! Why do you see them as flaws? They aren’t flaws. Your ‘problems’ are not ‘problems’ either. Your problems are solutions to someone else’s troubles. Look at your story in life and look at what you have faced and overcome. If you have the ability to be sitting here today and reading this, then that means you are still standing and you should be proud! Everything I have gone through in life, and mind you I have faced and overcome a lot of struggles and hardship, internally and externally. But every time I have crumbled, I have shook it off and kept moving forward. Those issues and problems I have faced in life (and still face) I embrace and seek the beauty in. Without them, I couldn’t understand the emotions I have nor would I have the ability to relate to other people’s emotions today. By feeling those emotions, you have the power to understand them and through that hardship, you have the ability to help someone else going through something you already have. It’s a blessing, not a curse.
  2. Every step you take to put yourself out there, the easier it will become. Putting yourself out there is just you stepping out of your comfort zone. That’s it! As humans, we are naturally guarded. Especially those who have suffered some kind of heartache in one way or another. Therefore, we are afraid to be vulnerable in case we  get hurt so we create a wall and barrier which becomes our comfort zone. Kind of like a turtle when the turtle is afraid. He ducks his little head back into his shell for protection because this is his safe comfort zone. The best way to break this barrier and peel back the layers of the walls we have created is by taking baby steps to putting ourselves out there. The next time you think about what you really want to say, or really want to do, or really crave to achieve, think about how you want to do it, not how you are expected to do it, or say it and take that leap! Taking the first leap of faith is always the hardest! But once you take that first leap, every other leap will slowly become easier. The more you are yourself, the more you will be surprised at people’s reactions. They may be more positive than negative and if they are negative, remind yourself why their opinions don’t matter!
  3. We only have one life on this planet, live it the way you want to! Do you really want to live the rest of your life by being someone else? By hiding away who you are in a fear of being judged, you are allowing yourself to become someone you aren’t. Almost like living a lie to yourself and you as a person deserve more than this. Again, this comes back to – Why do you actually care? Did someone once shut you down when you tried to put yourself out there? Are you worrying about something that hasn’t actually happened nor might it? We are all guilty, including myself of worrying about what might happen before it actually does. We must overcome this to live our life to the fullest. How do we overcome this? I fully believe we must embark on our SELF DISCOVER and SELF LOVE journey so that once we truly understand who we are, we can love who we are and once we love who we are our abilities to achieve and be whoever we want in life are endless! To read about how to achieve Self discovery and Self love click HERE.

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10 Comments on Have you ever feared the judgement of others? Here is why you shouldn’t!

  1. Jen
    August 20, 2017 at 1:28 pm (3 months ago)

    I love this Stephanie! And I completely agree that putting yourself out there and getting out of your comfort zone is a key to growth and achieving our goals! Thanks for this!

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    • Stephanie Barreca
      August 21, 2017 at 3:30 am (3 months ago)

      Thank you Jen! Life is so much better outside of your comfort zone!!! I believe everyone needs to live like this!

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  2. Katie
    August 20, 2017 at 1:36 pm (3 months ago)

    I totally agree that putting yourself out there is hard but essential. I’ve always been one that will do whatever it takes, even if its on my own. Great post!

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    • Stephanie Barreca
      August 21, 2017 at 3:30 am (3 months ago)

      Good on you! It’s such a great attitude to have! I completely agree. If you want to do it, just do it!

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  3. Milly
    August 20, 2017 at 4:15 pm (3 months ago)

    I will put myself out there and I hope it makes it easier!! I like that one! I have been running for quite a while now and it has just gotten easier over the days! It has become an addiction now and if I don’t run or work out, I get headache. Keep going for what you want, it will gets easier! You will get better and you will get stronger too! You will make mistakes during those times too but you will be smarter because you will learn a lesson and take away the lesson and not the mistake!
    Side note! You have a beautiful body and you dress amazing! Your dresses are flawless and make up, girl you rock!

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    • Stephanie Barreca
      August 21, 2017 at 3:32 am (3 months ago)

      That great to hear that you found something that keeps you going and pushing your limits. Thank you so much Milly, love your kind words!

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  4. ibanez
    August 20, 2017 at 4:25 pm (3 months ago)

    You are a dream come true! Thank you for not only inspring me but inspiring so many people to chase their dreams, kick ass and to be kind. love you immensly

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    • Stephanie Barreca
      August 21, 2017 at 3:33 am (3 months ago)

      Thank you Ibanez! We all have the ability to inspire others with our own story! You can also teach people to chase their dreams, kick ass and be kind! Love you!

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  5. Sarah Surman
    August 21, 2017 at 1:04 am (3 months ago)

    Steph – this is so bold and courageous of you lovely – I love that you are unfraid to use yourself as an example to help others overcome what we all go through . You are so right, we have to change our perception of our flaws being “flaws” – none of us are perfect – it’s how we use them to make them who we are and become the person we want to be. Love this and love you! Xoxo

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    • Stephanie Barreca
      August 21, 2017 at 3:33 am (3 months ago)

      Thank you gorgeous! Of course, we are relatable by our own stories! That is how we pull each other through life! Love you right back!

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