When I was asked to write about TRUE LOVE, this one slightly threw me off guard. How could I put into words a definition of TRUE LOVE that will do it justice? I know what it is because I feel it within myself and I was brought up by my father with a clear definition of what true love was.

My father had taught me that TRUE LOVE is not between a man and a women. It is not between family or friends. It is not lust. IT is in fact something much deeper within you that once you have it and hold on to it, it will last a life time. It’s so deeply imbedded into you, the feeling is so great you will never want to release it.

Before we define TRUE LOVE, we must understand the different types of LOVE that we each express in our emotions. This is broken up into 4 categories:

Affectionate Love:

An affectionate love is the type of love you might have for a family member or a spouse. It is the kind of love that comes naturally and unforced.

Family love is a love where you look after and care for one another. Through thick and thin, the annoying times and the pleasant. It’s a love so warming and built around loyalty and respect that no matter what, you WILL and SHOULD be there for one another. It is such an important foundation for us to hold on to that it should be well nurtured and protected.

Friendship Love:

Think about the closest friendships you have around you, like your best friend perhaps. You more than likely have a generous love for each other where you seek to please and make each other happy and constantly uplift one another.

Passionate love:

Passionate love that happens between two people in a committed relationship (I don’t feel as though I have to go into too much detail on passionate love!)

And then there is the 4th love.


So what defines TRUE LOVE and separate’s them from the rest? It is the love that we carry WITHIN ourselves to help us sustain all that life throws at us with a gracious manner.

When the love we carry within us is so strong, we are able to have grace with every positive and negative situation.

Somebody who carrys a TRUE LOVE within can easily be separated from those who don’t. It gives you a strong character of inner peace, helps you to define what true life values are and gives you the strength to sustain the storms we conquer in life.

True love is selfless. You crave to act for another purely out of the kindness of your heart even though they may never know it was you who helped them.

If you carry true love, then you will not give purely in order to receive. I’ve heard the term plenty of times that ‘nothing comes free’ which when you meet someone who has a TRUE and SELFLESS love within, they have plenty to give for free and the only thing they want in return, it to see the joy it brings one another.

It is a love that is so strong and deeply imbedded within you that it becomes the strength you have to hold one when all else around you crumbles. It is a warmth and hope that helps you to carry on and not to give up. It will see you through to the end and help you conquer the life you have ahead of you.

True love can look like following. It is about doing what is RIGHT and GOOD because it is the right thing to do and not acted out of selfish reasons.

Why do we need true love? Because it is the only thing that we can carry within us that will not pass. The things we buy will pass. The knowledge we have will pass. The items we own will disappear. But who we are as a person, will be with us for eternity.

How do we find TRUE LOVE?

This is where I think it is important to reference back to last weeks post on SELF DISCOVERY and SELF LOVE (You can click HERE). Before we can take the steps to self love, we must truly understand our own unique identity in who we are. We must learn to pride ourselves on our values so that once we know and understand them, the TRUE LOVE will naturally start to shine from within us.

If you have any questions regarding this post, or want me to write something specific in next weeks, you can contact me HERE.



10 Comments on TRUE LOVE! Do you have it? It just might not be what you expected.

  1. Milly
    July 29, 2017 at 11:50 pm (5 months ago)

    This is honestly hard topic to write because we all define true love differently. True love ❤️. This was an interesting read but I like the detailed explanation.

    • Stephanie Barreca
      July 29, 2017 at 11:57 pm (5 months ago)

      I know! It really had me thinking hard this week, how do you put true love into words?! I had to dig deep into what I believe and hoped that I got the message across well enough to do my version justice!

  2. Sarah Surman
    July 30, 2017 at 12:09 am (5 months ago)

    Such a great definition of true love steph!! You are so right, it comes from within – built on the firm foundations of our values!! The outfit is super cute as well!!
    Xo S

    • Stephanie Barreca
      July 31, 2017 at 11:25 pm (4 months ago)

      Everything comes from within! You know how big I am in supporting internal growth and health haha. Thank you so much! I too love this outfit. Kind of want to wear it everyday. Sitting on my couch feeling like a princess.

  3. Jen
    July 30, 2017 at 2:11 am (5 months ago)

    This is so thoughtfully written, I really enjoyed it! Thanks for sharing, and your photos are beautiful!

    • Stephanie Barreca
      July 31, 2017 at 11:22 pm (4 months ago)

      Thank you so much! Yes, so much thought did go in to it so I am so happy it shows!

  4. Katie
    July 30, 2017 at 2:50 am (5 months ago)

    I love the sentiment behind this. You are so right about true love! I liked how you broke love down into four different kinds of love. Definitely made me reflect!

    • Stephanie Barreca
      July 31, 2017 at 11:24 pm (4 months ago)

      Thank you! Yes i thought it would be important to distinguish different types of love that there are! We don’t often think about it until someone brings it to light!

  5. Anita rahayu
    August 2, 2017 at 1:00 am (4 months ago)

    I love stephaniebarreca

    • Stephanie Barreca
      August 2, 2017 at 1:01 am (4 months ago)

      Thank you so much!! Much love to you! xx


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